Comments on: Not Being a Real Person: The #1 Self-Development Anti-Hack

By: Eric Scott

Eric Scott — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 14:06:00 +0000

I loved the
post and love the concept; it serves to belay some of the existential angst
that I deal with on a daily basis. However, we must be careful lest we become
what we despise. The angst stems from a feeling of being judged for being “un-real”
which is another term for non-conformist and it is a razors edge which we walk
with “realness” on one side of the abyss and selfishness on the other. My mother
was a real person (conservative) too. She got her degrees while raising my brother
and me, worked hard all her life at the same job, sat in the same spot in the
same church all her life and in every way qualifies as a “real” person. Her “reality”
was a sacrifice of spontaneity so that she could provide for me the opportunity
for “un-realness.” Might she have chosen another path with similar results for
me? I don’t know. It would be interesting to see how many of the “unreal” world
changers were anchored by someone real behind the scenes who held the kite
string, allowing the kite to sore without drifting into oblivion. I suspect
that we of the “un-real” ilk might owe a debt to some really “real” people who
are comfortable with conformity. Perhaps that manifests in, not only the
opportunity, but an obligation to “change the world” and make it a better more
compassionate world. We MUST guard against an elitist attitude and recognize that,
sometimes, real-ness is itself un-real if by real we mean mediocre or
representing the status quo and by un-real we mean something different than
that. So….. Thanks for helping me to embrace my un-realness, it’s nice to know
that I am not alone and to consider that we are a capable and noble folk, but
in the same breath I salute the real people of the world who are not so flaky.

By: Neil Garton

Neil Garton — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 19:11:31 +0000

Whether people think you are real or unreal is none of their business. People should keep their opinions to themselves. I don't want have kids as i think it is pointless, and some people say i'm not a real person because of that decision. I notice that a lot of people try to be like early day man and I think its pathetic as none of us are like that. We don't live in caves for a start and we have a society unlike before. We are all going through the highs and lows of life and end up dead at the end of it. It's pointless. Now, i'm a happy lad and do what I want without hurting anyone (intensionally). My advice (take it or leave it) is to just be yourself no matter what, fuck what anyone thinks of you, and as long as you're happy……that'll do.

By: Stacy

Stacy — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 05:57:49 +0000

By Real, I mean “Real”, like with reality and accepting of it!! I do not like people who act or tell you what's going on in their lives when “really” it's so not going on. For example, I have a M-I-L who lives a lesbian life, but she will not ever talk about it with her children, who live out of state. Like we don't know what's going on. We have met the other partner, and she is so nice, so why not recognize it???? It drives me crazy. This is what I mean by being “real”……… Be a real person. Voice your opinions, even though we may not all agree. It's called life and we learn each and every day from it!

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By: Jade

Jade — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 03:19:27 +0000

Thanks for helping me figure out where I am. Stepping stones.

By: Seamus Anthony

Seamus Anthony — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 04:47:00 +0000

Dude, you are totally unreal, no doubt about it.

I loved this post. It makes me feel better about being a freak. Thank you :-)

By: Vishnu

Vishnu — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:11:48 +0000

Enjoyed reading…looks like you have found a great context for your life…especially the point about not trying to actualize someone else’s reality. I was in that rut and am still to a large extent…I am gradually shifting to things I love from things that would have made others proud of me.

By: Blake@YoungDough

Blake@YoungDough — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 20:06:17 +0000

This was a much-needed jolt to get me back on track! Have you heard of the song ‘Real World’ by Matchbox 20? It reminds me of this so much, since the real world seems to put up a good fight as we try to escape, but it’s completely worth it.

By: Nathan

Nathan — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 01:51:08 +0000

Good article. I believe it is our duty to free people from being “real people,” especially our family and children. The world is never going to wake up as long as we keep living for someone else.

By: anmari

anmari — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 07:36:06 +0000

Great post! I like the audio. I’m curious now if everything I have done in my life makes me a real person or unreal person… :) For me, whatever works, whatever makes me happy.

Happy blogging!